I've Fallen...Now What?

It is often believed that once you're saved, you're free from temptation. That has to be the biggest misconception ever. When you surrender your life to Christ, things will not be all sun-shines & rainbows. Satan is going to try to do whatever he can to get you back on his team.

So, what happens when you've been living for Christ strong, and then all of a sudden your weakness is thrown at you? You know that one ex-boyfriend that used to push you closer to sin is now blowing up your phone. Or, that one friend that you used to smoke and party with is now all of a sudden wanting to hang out again. You give in to that temptation & you do what you once told God that you would never do again. Now, you're feeling convicted. You're broken & the enemy is telling you that there's no way that God will forgive you now!

Let me just remind you that the devil is a liar!  

One of the greatest examples of forgiveness after a fall is David. David was highly favored in the Lord's eyes. He was called a man after God's own heart. One day, he slipped up & had relations with another man's wife. She then became pregnant. Once he found this out, he secretly plotted to have her husband killed! Crazy right?!? The Bible tells us in 2 Samuel 11:27 that God was not pleased with David at all, but was willing to give him another chance.

David confessed his sins after being rebuked by a friend. Soon after, God forgave David, but he had to face some consequences. God could've killed David, but instead He offered David His grace. 

"Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me." (Psalm 51:10)

David was a man after God's heart, but he was a man. In his pursuit of God, he made a detour because of his flesh. You may be like David. You want God & you desire to follow Him, but you have made a detour. You've made a mistake & now you're facing the consequences. There is hope for you. Know that God understands that we are nothing but mere mortals. He knew that we were going to make mistakes, but He still wanted to be in an intimate relationship with us. So much that He allowed His only son to be killed so that we could be reconciled with Him. 

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9)

Like David did in Psalm 51, find a place & cry out to God for change. He is waiting for you with open arms! God wants to be close to you no matter the amount of sin you have committed. He just wants you to be willing to change your mind & repent. Don't believe all of those stupid lies that the enemy whispers in your ears. You are still loved by God! God still desires to be close to you! You can start over & receive grace!

God doesn't want you to just sit in your guilt. He wants you to reconnect with Him. Listen, there were many times when I lost my way & felt that God didn't want anything to do with me. I kept going to church & I kept reading His word. Through that, I was reassured that He still loved me! I cried out to Him & made a choice to never go back. Those things & people that I once loved was not worth missing Jesus. Just like He forgave me, He wants to do the same for you. There's no pit too deep for Him. If you call out with a sincere heart, He will pull you up, dust you off & give you a new name. God is waiting to hear your cry. Will you receive your forgiveness today?

"The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance." (2 Peter 3:9)

Free from Me.

May I be really honest with you all? I remember looking in the mirror & saying "you're stupid". I remember beating myself up terribly after making a mistake. I remember hating everything about Jamilya. Everything about me was wrong. I never did anything right according to myself. I allowed myself to tear me down. Nothing I said or thought about me was positive. No one knew my struggles. I was a really insecure girl. I hated myself. 

 Then, I had an encounter with Jesus.

We hear the story about Jesus dying on the cross all the time. It is the greatest story ever heard, but the mindset of "it's just a story" has caused us to be blind to its power. Once I grasped the power of what was done on the cross, I realized how special & important I was to God. He loved me so much that He gave His Son as a sacrifice for my sins. He knew I would mess up. He knew I would make dumb decisions, but that didn't & it won't stop Him from loving me!

God loves me flaws & all!

And He loves you the same! You don't have to be perfect! Stop beating yourself up. Stop verbally abusing yourself. You are going to make mistakes, and that's okay. Please know that there is a God who is willing to help & accept you. He desires to be close to you because He adores you!

All of our flaws & mistakes were crucified on the cross when they nailed Him to the wood. When He rose, we gained the gift of grace, which allows us to live daily & be forgiven.

 Now, there are days when I just want to walk around & throw a pity party because of the unwise decisions that I have made, but He won't let me. It's all a lesson. Daily, I'm learning to love myself & my flaws. We all have to learn to accept our flaws & mistakes, place them in the hands of Jesus, and keep going. We can't keep holding ourselves down!

So, here's to being free from ourselves. Never again will we look in the mirror & say "I hate you". Never  again will we beat ourselves up. We won't forget that God loves us regardless of what we've done. We won't allow feed into the silly thoughts the enemy places in our heads that will cause us to crumble. No, our minds are free! We're free from our emotions. They will not control us & make us feel worthless. We will believe & trust in what God says about us. We are not defined by our flaws.

You are beautiful. You are unique. You are His.

Behind the Mask.

"Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes." (1 Peter 3:3)

Weaves, "on fleek" eyebrows & makeup, fly kicks, fresh clothes. Everything about our outside appearance has to be perfect every time we step out. We're a generation of women that believes if the outside is dressed nicely, then everything else is good.  I believe that we should dress nice as women. I believe that it's important to present  yourself as classy, but when it becomes our primary focus, we're in trouble. There's so many beautiful girls, but the majority of us are broken, angry & insecure.

 We do so many things to cover up what's truly inside.

 

Insecurity. Whether we agree or not, a number of us are insecure. The insecurity comes from many different things & many different people. We try to cover it up daily by painting our faces with the most expensive brands of make-up. We try to flatter our body shapes by wearing clothes we believe will attract people/boys to us. We buy extensions to get compliments that will make us feel good about ourselves for a moment. 

Anger. So many of us walk around angry. We're angry with the world, our parents, or another girl that you should be loving as a sister. You're constantly fighting & arguing with others, but because you have a pretty face & the "flyest" outfits, everyone calls you "real". So now instead of addressing the real issue, you've adapted to this image because it pleases people.

Pain. Those things that happened to you as a child & that still continue to happen to you has you emotionally drained. You don't trust anyone. You are afraid to love. You're afraid to tell anyone how you truly feel because you fear no one will care. The pain on the inside is unbearable, but no one will know because you're hiding behind a mask. 

"Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quite spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight." (1 Peter 3:4)

When the masquerade ends & all of the people are gone, what will God see? He won't see the girl with the mask on, but He will definitely see the girl underneath the mask. He sees her now and He desires to change you. Sister, these material things are only temporary & will fade. God wants to give you a beauty that is never ending. He wants to cleanse you, starting with the inside.

I know you're tired of spending countless hours fixing up what's on the outside & you're still jacked up on the inside. I know that attention isn't really what you need. There's only one that can cleanse you, & that's Jesus. If you let Him, He will change your life for the better. I know this to be true because He did it for me. Your salvation & soul is more important than your outer appearance.

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised." (Proverbs 31:30)

Hey There!

It's been a while! Just wanted to share this video with you all. Hope you're doing well! Love you♥

-Jamilya.

Accepted.

"With You is where I belong...."

   Her face was so familiar to me. I remember seeing her at a Christian organization in the beginning of school, but shortly she disappeared. Last week was our first encounter in a while. This time, it was different. She looked different. As we walked past each other our eyes locked. It was only for a short time, but it seemed like forever. I instantly thought "she doesn't belong". It's like I could feel her cry to be rescued.....

   A lot of you girls are where she is right now. You don't belong with the people that you are hanging around. You're compromising your faith & changing who you are because you just want to be accepted.
   I know its hard when it seems like you're all alone. I know its tough when you have been cast out all of your life. You're so tired of being alone that you're willing to do WHATEVER it takes to make people like you, whether its curse, exploit your body, hook up with random guys, drugs, etc.

Baby girl, stop.

 Please understand that the same God that made you, is the same one that desires to be close to you. He loves & adores you! You don't have to do all of these crazy things to make people like you because you are already accepted by the most high GOD! You are the apple of His eye. You are the love of His life. You belong with HIM! So what if they tease you because you've never had sex. So what if they look at you funny because of your size. So what if they talk trash about what you wear. GOD loves you for YOU!! 

   I know you're tired. Tired of doing all of these things & you still end up feeling like you're alone & empty. You're saying to yourself, "there has to be more". Sis, there is more & God is willing to be that for you if you just allow Him to. God will give you this amazing joy. He will give you confidence in who He created you to be. He will fill you like only He can. Give your heart to Jesus. Give your all to Him & I guarantee that He will change your life for the better. You won't ever have to question His love for you. You won't ever feel like you're not accepted.
   I'm not trying to preach to you, but I want you to know that you are accepted & loved by God. He truly cares about you. Don't walk around depressed because people don't like you. Don't keep sleeping with guys so that you can get attention. The attention & the love that you desire is there waiting for you. Ask God to open your eyes & help you to see that with Him is where you truly belong.

Please don't forget to send prayer requests & questions to be_his_girl@yahoo.com.

Private Moments.

   Late nights. A time when everyone is sleep, except for me. Tucked away in my room, I was having a private moment with him. You might have heard people call it "caking", but for me, it was more than that. These were the times when I felt as if it was just us. In these moments, he would tell me how beautiful I was. We would exchange sweet words like "I miss you", or "I love you". It was those words that hooked me & reeled me in. Every word sparked a feeling in me that I could not control. It was almost like I could feel him, but he was never physically next to me...

   The fire moved & so did hands. Masturbation & lust. Before I knew it, I was trapped in this world of sin & the only way out was *click*...the phone died every single time. With each dying of the phone, a little part of me died also. When I would return back to my senses I would immediately feel dirty & far away from God, but I wasn't doing anything to change it. It occurred so often that I was starting to get comfortable with these private moments.

But He wasn't comfortable.

   He loved me enough to snatch me out & make those private moments not so private. I was looking for a love that would complete me, but I ran into lust on my journey. Too blinded by what society said was love, I tried to get back to him, but He wouldn't let me. He pulled me back every time & said "no" because He had something greater.  

His deep love caused me to exchange my private moments with him for private moments with Him.

   That Him that I'm talking about is Jesus Christ. With Him, I enter this peaceful place that is lasting. In these moments, He heals me & gives me the courage to share things like this with you. Never do I have to doubt His words. His words never leave me empty, but they make me whole. He sustains me. He restores me. He completes me, not him. 

   I'm not being vulnerable because I want my business out on center stage, but because I know that God can change your life too. His grace is enough to sustain you & heal you from your bad habits. Your habit may be different from mine, but I know that there is nothing that God can't do. He can save you if you just repent of your sins. He ready to change you. He longs for those private moments with you. He desires for you to know Him better. He's ready to show you true love. Are you ready to exchange?

 

Modestly Me | Brenda

"Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes." (1 Peter 3:3)

Hey there! Meet Brenda! A 17 year old high school senior. Going to church & praising God are at the top of her list of things she loves to do. When she's not at church, you can catch her hanging out with friends and her boyfriend, singing songs, reading, or doing photography. Here's Brenda's take on Modesty:

Why do you love to dress modestly?

I love dressing modestly because it is a way of showing that I respect myself and it's also my way of honoring God. It says in 1 Peter 3:4 ||You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.|| And dressing modestly is my way of showing my gentle and quite spirit.

Where's your favorite place to shop? 
I love going to Ross, Forever 21, TJ Maxx, JC Penny, Marshall's, and Burlington Coat Factory. I'm not really picky to where I shop, but these are the places I usually go to.

Do you find it tough to find modest clothing when everything is so short in the stores?
Do I find it tough to shop, yes I do. It is very difficult to find modest clothing. Everything is either too short, too tight, or too revealing. But when I find something that isn't too short, tight, or revealing, I take it! Haha.

What is your favorite thing to wear & why?
My favorite thing to wear? I would say dresses because they can either be causal or dressy, and it's a lot easier to work with them. Skirts as well. I just love dress shopping.

When it comes to fashion, who inspires you the most? 
When it comes to fashion I wouldn't say anyone really inspires me. I just wear what I like and what I think looks best.

Bonus question! What would you tell girls that struggle with body image?

 I struggled myself a lot when it came to my body image. Growing up, I was told a lot of hurtful and mean things I should not have been told as a child. I would tell the girls that you have a King who loves you! You are His princess and you were made in His image. So, to Him you are perfect doesn't matter your flaws. To Him you are beautiful in every aspect. ||You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way.|| (Song of Songs 4:7)
I know what it feels like to struggle in that area in your life and it sucks it truly does, but when you focus your life on God, He makes you realize you have been beautiful all along! 

 Liked Brenda's post? You could be next! Don't forget to submit your pictures on Facebook(www.facebook.com/behisgirl) or hashtag them on Instagram #ModestlyMebhg!

Modestly Me | Marisol

"I think modesty is one of the best ways to let God's light shine through you..."

   Meet Marisol. A 17 year old girl who loves the Lord & is passionate about living for Him. I've had the pleasure of meeting Marisol over social media, only to find out that she lives near my hometown! She is the first feature for Modestly Me! So with that said, here's Marisol's take on modesty...

Why do you think dressing modestly is important?
   Dressing modestly is one of the most important things. Our body is a temple, and we shouldn't show off  "what God gave us", as some people would say. I am one of those that people call "crazy for Jesus" because I always try to follow His word. In Timothy 2:9 it says, "In like manner also, that women adorn themselves with modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly arrray;"
   You can't dress "modestly" in extremely short shorts and a low cut tank top. If you're trying to show God's light through you, people should know the difference between you and worldly people by the way you dress.

What is your favorite thing to wear? Why?
   I love to wear skirts and dresses. I wear just skirts and dresses because I want to please God by being modest. I also love them because I've been wearing them since I was a little girl. That's how my mother raised me, and I wouldn't change that for the world. She always taught me that what you wear shows people that you are different, and it lets God's light shine through you for the whole world to see.

What's something you would say to inspire girls to dress in a respectable way?
   I would like to tell girls that you can dress modest and still look beautiful. You are a temple where God comes and dwells. It doesn't matter what people say about the way you dress. You shouldn't please them, but please GOD! And you are a precious diamond in His eyes. Don't let the fashion of today's world change that!

Liked Marisol's post? You could be next! Don't forget to submit your pictures on Facebook(www.facebook.com/behisgirl) or hashtag them on Instagram #ModestlyMebhg!

Modestly Me.

   Dresses, skirts, jeans, and sometimes shorts. That's what you can catch me in. I'm a girly girl. I love dresses & skirts. Now-a-days, skirts, dresses, and shorts are way too short. I mean so short that if you bend over, the whole world will see your lady parts. Not cute nor classy. I'm a girl of class. I respect myself by the way that I dress. I realize that my body is beautiful, but that doesn't mean that I go showing it of to everyone. I am a Daughter of the King. I am special.

   With that being said, I want other girls to realize that they are the same. There are too many that disrespect themselves by wearing revealing clothes. Girls need to know that it is possible to be beautiful without showing off their assets

 I need YOUR help to make this happen! I want to see your modest styles! Submit a photo with an explanation of why dressing modest is important to you & you could be one of the first girls featured on Be His Girl's Modestly Me!

You have three ways to submit a photo: 

Instagram - #Modestlymebhg

Facebook - www.facebook.com/behisgirl

or by email - be_his_girl@yahoo.com

I'm excited to see your photos! Happy posting!

-Jamilya

PS. Click this link to read a post about dressing classy & modestly

The Beauty of Me.

For years, I suffered from not being comfortable with me. I compared myself to others. I compared my gift to others. 

"Why can't I look like her?" 
"Why can't I sing like her?"

Everything about me was wrong. Just wrong. Never would I look at myself and love the girl that I was looking at. People that I loved the most are some of the ones that contributed to my insecurities. No one knew what I struggled with. No one knew what I wrestled with daily. Not one. 

At least that's what I believed.

Jesus Christ knew. He knew every thought that I had of my self. He saw the anger I that felt when someone called me ugly. He saw me trying to change myself to make "them" like me. 

He longed for me to let Him heal me.

Until I truly accepted Christ, I never knew how important I really was. I never knew that I was truly beautiful. Yes, I heard it, but He confirmed it. Through His healing, I found confidence. In Him I continue to find out that what makes me beautiful is the fact that I am me. There is only one me in this world.

Today, God wants to heal you. He wants to take away that jealousy and replace it with confidence. He wants to heal all of your deepest insecurities and truly free you from your bondage. There is beauty in you & it comes only from God. He wants you to see that you are special. You are His masterpiece. You are not who "they" say you are. You are not someone else.
You are everything God says you are.
He says you're beautiful. He says you're unique. He says you are His. He says that you are just what He imagined.

Let God into your heart and allow Him to uncover every lie that you've believed about yourself. There is beauty in you that the world cannot define or comprehend. Embrace His healing & discover the beauty of being you.
-Jamilya

Not Just a Ring.

"Baby, you need to put that ring on the other hand."

"Are you engaged?"

So many comments. So many stares. So many questions about the ring. I'm not engaged or married, but I'm committed. 

I've always dreamed about one day having a ring. One that sparkled, but yet represented something worth more than diamonds. At the age of 16, I received a ring after a series of the most impure moments of my life; a purity ring. Young & naive, I allowed myself to get into things that were not for me. I did silly things out of "love", but God's grace kept me.

This isn't just a ring to me, but it represents special promises. Promises that I was dedicated to keep. A promise to honor God with my body. A promise to never become one with just anyone. A promise to have respect for the body that He gave me. Three years later, I still remain faithful to those promises. It isn't an easy journey being young, but I am convinced that it will all be worth it. 

This world is so centered around of sex. Songs are all about sex. T.V. shows are full of promiscuous stories. Sex is e-v-e-r-y-w-h-e-r-e, especially in the college scene, but I refuse to give in. Temptation is all around, but I remember that my relationship with the Savior is more important than any thing on this earth.

If you're still a virgin, keep it up. Don't allow a few sweet, temporary words take your forever! If you're celibate, continue to honor God first! If you're currently engaged in sex, please understand that your body is beautiful & sacred! You are God's treasure, not just any person is worth having a piece. Your worth is priceless.

DIY: Goals Board!

Hi everyone! Today, I just want to share with you a recent project that I did last Friday. I created a Goals Board, also known as a vision board. The reason why I did this is because I wanted to remind myself of the goals that I've created.

As a young lady, its easy to get distracted by social networks, or by trying to be in a "relationship". If you are still in your teens, please know that there is more to life than being in a relationship! Take this time to figure out who you are & what you want to accomplish in life!

With that being said, I want you to read a recent post Going Somewhere? & write out your goals. Done? Great!

Now, let's create your goal board!

What you need:

1. Poster board (really cheap at a dollar store)

2. Sharpies or markers

3. Tape or glue (if you type your goals)

4. Scissors

Creating the board is super easy! All you have to do is write your goals on the board or paste them on. It's not complicated at all! Add different inspirational quotes, pictures, or scriptures to customize it. I'm not really an artistic person, but if you are, go ahead & draw different patterns on yours! Once you're done, post it up on your wall in your room with blue painter's tape or regular tape. 

Here's my final product (well what I have now):

 If you create one, let me know! Send your pics to be_his_girl@yahoo.com

Love you all & have a great day!

-Jamilya.

 

From my heart to yours.

Hello, beautiful!

Yes, you.

Today, I just want you to know that God loves you.

In His eyes, you are a gem. 

He formed you in your mother's womb, and from that moment, you were special.

Know that you are here for a reason. 

You are not a mistake!

God's plan for your life is so great.

He has everything worked out for your good.

Life can get hard, and sometimes the peer pressure is heavy.

Just know this...

You don't have to be like everyone else. 

You were not made to be like everyone else.

There's a reason why God gave your own special, unique genes.

Don't allow anyone to tell you that you aren't beautiful.

Don't allow anyone to call you out of your name.

You are not a "bad chick".

You are not a female dog.

You are not a whore.

You are a Daughter of the King!

Your value is worth more than rubies.

Don't settle or tolerate just anything or anyone.

 You deserve nothing but God's best.

 Know that you are beautiful just the way you are.

Your body is beautiful and sacred.

Not every guy deserves the key to your treasure.

You are worth waiting for.

You are beautiful.

You are brilliant.

Christ adores you.

Embrace you for you♥

Accept You.

   What happens when you stop loving who you are? You look into the mirror & hate what you see. When you walk around campus, you start comparing yourself to the other girls that you see. You're not comfortable with yourself because you don't feel beautiful. 
   You know, I used to feel just like that. I used to hate what I saw when I would look at myself in the mirror. I would point out every flaw & some times call myself ugly. I hated my size, my gap, my skin tone, everything. It wasn't until my relationship with God got stronger that I started to accept me for me. Through Christ I realized that I was beautiful with all of my flaws & imperfections. Christ helped me see the beauty in me & not the flaws. Now that I'm at college, the enemy tries to get me to believe that I'm not pretty compared to all of the other girls here, but God's word reassures me that I am!

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. (Psalm 13:14)

   You may have heard that scripture before or have read it over & over, but yet it still doesn't help you. You may have heard that you were made in God's image, but that still doesn't give you that confidence boost you want. Please realize that you are truly special the way you are. Your skin isn't too pale or too dark. Your hair isn't too straight or too kinky. The size of your jeans do not define who you are. Don't try to find your worth in clothes, in makeup & in boys. You can't & won't find it in those things! 

   You are God's beautiful daughter & He loves you unconditionally. That means that God accepts you just the way you are. He made every part of you & He thinks that you are to die for...literally (Check out John 3:16). Christ adores you, girl. If no one else thinks you are beautiful, PLEASE know that the almighty God made you in His image & every thing He makes is marvelous. 

   I challenge you to say nothing but positive things about yourself the next time you look in the mirror. I challenge you to say "I'm beautiful!" instead of "I'm so ugly". I challenge you to stop putting on makeup to feel more beautiful & learn to accept yourself au naturel. Girls, we have to stop putting ourselves down & comparing ourselves to others. You are your own person. You are special & unique the way God created you. There's a reason why there is only one you in this world. Accept her.

Dress Classy.

Short shorts. Tight leggings. Low cut shirts. Belly showing. Push up bra. Cut out dresses. Body all exposed & she wonders why people stare the way they do. She wonders why guys only want sex from her.

Girls, I'm not here to bash, but I'm here to help. Here to help you realize that you are worth more than what you present yourself as. They way you dress says a lot about who you are. They way you dress can let someone know if you are confident or insecure. The way you dress is how you want people to perceive you.

Your body is God's holy temple. Therefore, you should not be exposing your body to any & everybody! Don't you know that you were bought at a price, meaning that you are special. If your "friends" can't accept you with clothes that cover your body, then they aren't your friends. If a guy can't like you with clothes on, then he is definitely not worth your time. 

So, let's do a #wardrobecheck. What kind of clothes are you wearing? Does your clothes show a lot of skin? Does the way you dress scream classy & confident, or insecure? 

Yes, people around you wear tight & revealing clothes, but you don't have to. Yes, it may seem like the most popular girls are the ones that expose their bodies, but if that's what it takes to be popular, why do you want to be popular? You have to learn how to respect yourself & understand that your body is God's temple. Nobody deserves to see your goodies, but your husband. So, be classy ladies & cover up. 

"Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God." (1 Peter 3:3-4)

Coming soon: a new fashion segment on Be His Girl!

Girl, Who Are You?

   

   Take a look in the mirror & who do you see? You might say "me", but are you sure? Take a deeper look this time & tell me who do you see? Yes, you see yourself, but is she the girl that God has called her to be? 
   It's so easy to get so caught up in doing things because we want to fit in that we lose sense of who we are as individuals. Girls on the T.V. wear tight clothes, so you do the same. All of the girls that get attention are the ones that wear weaves & makeup, so you do the same. Everybody is in "love", so you spend the majority of your time trying to find a guy so that you can be just like them. Everybody is twerking & getting wasted, so you do the same. While you're trying to be like everyone else, that person that you call you is starving. No positive things, no career goals, no educational goals, & most importantly, no real relationship with Christ. She is literally dying more & more everyday.
   You spend the most of your time trying to be "the baddest chick". You spend a lot of your time partying with your "friends". You curse, listen to the latest garbage, I mean music, & smoke weed because you want to fit in, but truth is you're slowly dying. You're empty & you know that you are, but all of that stuff has you whipped. You're so addicted to fitting in that you wouldn't even be yourself to save your self. You would rather die being like everyone else than being yourself. You no longer have your own identity, it's someone else's. 
   I don't want you to miss what God has for you because you want others to accept you. I don't want you to miss being that business woman because you meet up with this no good guy & end up getting pregnant at 16. I don't want you to spend so much time being some boy's "wifey" when you are meant to be a man's wife. I don't want you to smoke weed to have fun with your "friends" & then you become an addict. Stop trying to be "bout that life" & do something with your life! I really just want you to understand that you were made for something greater. Trying to be like everyone else has you lost. You're not getting better every day, you're actually getting worse.

  

"There's a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death." (Proverbs 14:12)

   

   Don't kill yourself or starve your dreams because you want to fit in. Please, understand that there is a reason why God gave you your own DNA. You were not born to be somebody else. If that was the case, then your DNA would be the EXACT same as someone else's. Twins don't even have the exact same DNA because they are two different individuals! The only way that I've been successful is because I chose to be different & I chose to live my life for Christ. Since then, He has not failed me yet! 

   I want you to do a life check. I want you to sit down & examine your life. Examine everything that you do, the people around you, the music that you listen to, & your relationship with Christ. Be honest & ask yourself these questions,

1.Who am I?

2. Do my friends push me to do better, or do they pressure me?

3. What do I spend the majority of my time doing?

4. How much does the opinion of others determine my actions?

5. Is my relationship with God where it should be?

   Realize that there is so much more to life than the things that you see. Realize that there is something inside of you that has the ability to change lives. Beat the odds & be yourself. You cannot reach your highest potential until you realize that your identity is found in Christ. Please don't let your dreams & goals die because you want to be like someone else. No, feed them by spending time reading God's word & finding out who you are in Him. Make a decision to stop trying to please people & please God. Live for Christ & let Him change your world into something great.

Let's Talk Sex.

"There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one."(1 Corinthians 6:16)

   Sex: a word that has become something like a curse word to many Christians. No one likes to talk about sex because they feel that if you talk about, then people are going to want to do. Well, no one talks about it & many teenagers are having it. So, I say LET'S TALK ABOUT IT!

   Our society promotes sex like crazy! You see it on television, in movies, on the Internet, in books, and you hear about it in music. The way sex is presented to us through the media, it seems as though sex is just to have fun. Sex has no meaning anymore. Sex now is just between any two individuals that just want to have fun. That's not what God created sex for! God created sex for a man & a woman that is MARRIED! God created sex was for procreation. You remember Adam & Eve, right? Well, in Genesis 1:28 He told them "to be fruitful & multiply". God basically told them to have sex to have children. Sex is not for two young teenagers, or unmarried adults, to do because they feel that they love each other or they just want to have fun. No, that's not it!

   I know many young people, especially girls, that have sex because they feel that they are "in love". Boys will tell girls that if you're in love with them, then you must have sex to prove it. Don't believe the lies, ladies! If he really loves you then he wouldn't be worried about having sex with you! True love is patient (1 Corinthians 13:4). Plus, you're young! There are more things to life than having sex with someone that won't even be your husband. Sex is a physical & spiritual connection between two people. Once you're connected to that person, they are there forever.

   Don't think that pre-marital sex doesn't have consequences because it does. I can name a few for you, such as a baby (or babies!), diseases, loneliness, depression, low self-esteem, etc. Be smart & just do it God's way. There's absolutely NOTHING wrong with being a virgin & waiting until you're married! I'll be 19 in two months & I'm a PROUD virgin! Understand that your body is God's holy temple. Your body is like a treasure chest full of diamonds, gold & rubies. Don't let just anyone have the key & take your treasure because by the time your king comes, your treasure won't have much worth.



Love on Somebody.

"So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples."  (John 13:34-35)

   Today, I want to talk about the importance of loving others. We live in a society where there is so much pressure to fit in. If you're not skinny, then you're not pretty. If you're overweight, then you're lazy. If you don't dress with the latest fashions, then you're weird. If you don't listen to rap, then you're lame. So many teens & children get teased everyday & no one seems to care.
   I know what it's like to be teased because I was at one point. People may say that words don't hurt, but they truly do. I want you to think for a moment. Think about that person that you have been teasing. Think about that person that you have been spreading lies about. Think about that person that you just rolled your eyes at. Think about how you would feel if someone would constantly do that to you, & don't say you wouldn't care because you would!
   That girl that you just called ugly wants to kill herself. That girl that you just laughed at because her clothes are not "in" is having a hard time at home. What I'm trying to tell you is that you never know what people are going through so leave them alone! If her hair doesn't look like yours, so what! If her clothes are too tight or if she's wearing the same clothes over & over, go buy her some new clothes! We have to stop picking out people's flaws because we have many of them ourselves!
   If you're reading this & you are a victim, let me just tell you that God loves you unconditionally. He accepts you for who you are & you are special in His eyes. Don't commit suicide because that boy called you out of your name. Don't cut yourself because that girl threatened you. No, YOU ARE SPECIAL!!! Who cares if they don't like you! God LOVES you & He's the only person that matters. God has a special plan for each & every one of us. Please don't cut yours short because of what other's think. You're too precious....God loves you. Hold on, please.
   If we're professing to be Christians we must love others. We can't keep talking about people because that's not what Christ did. Christ loved the people that spat on Him. He loved us while we were still sinners! We must love on people! If it's just a smile or a compliment, give one to someone today. You never know how that person may be feeling or what they are going through. That simple gesture could make their day. Love like Jesus does & help save someone's life today.

-Jamilya

Something I Had to Say......

   She feels heavy pressure every time she looks in the mirror. She feels that she's not pretty enough, so she puts on more make-up than she does clothes. She feels that she's "fat", so she goes on the diet which requires no eating. She wants to be in love like everyone else around her, so she hooks up with just any guy. She gives him sex & h*** because that's what the kids do when they're in love, right? Now, she has all the bragging rights & can tell all of her "friends" what she has done, but when she gets home its a different story.
   No one knows how broken she is inside. Nobody knows how bad she is hurting because that same guy she just had sex with is cheating on her with another girl. No one knows that she is suicidal because every time she gets on Instagram or Facebook, some idiot calls her ugly & a slut. What are we doing? WHAT ARE WE DOING!?
Girls are on their last string trying to fit in & nobody is reaching out to say positive things or expose us to more positive things! All people do is judge, judge, JUDGE to the point that no girl wants to speak up! I remember when that was me, doing things with my "boyfriend"  because I wanted to be just like everyone else. I was hurting! Hurting so much to the point where I wanted out because I felt like God didn't love me & if I told my parents, they would judge me & be disappointed in me....I wanted to die....
   I write all this to let you girls know that you are beautiful no matter what "they" say! & who are "they" to tell you who you are when they didn't make you! God created you in His very own image, so BAM! It's time out for all of this trying to fit in stuff and you know you're not satisfied! The only way you're gonna find real love & be content with yourself is when you find out who you are in GOD!! He's the only way you're gonna make it through this life. You are beautiful. You are smart. You are intelligent. You are special because there is only ONE you in this world. You don't have to idolize Beyonce or Rihanna because that's not who you are!!! Be yourself & seek God for confidence! You're not a bad b****, you're a child of GOD!! God hears your cry & He wants to help you, so allow Him! Hear me out...

I may be young, but God is using me to help you. I'm here for prayers and if you need someone to talk to.

-Jamilya

From Sister to Sister: You Are Beautiful.

 

Just a little something I wanted to share with you all.....

 

 

 

 

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful,I know that full well." -Psalm 139:14